Hello guys, this is my first post since I've retired from blogging world long time ago, so, please go easy on me... ;)
In this good opportunity, I would like to propose a topic about being different in a different way, or what I called "be different without being different". Yeah, I know that this is confusing, but I promise, you'll get to that after finish read this article... ;)
So, what I meant by being different in a different way is an art of being different without anybody realizing that we were different in some odd ways.
As you may know, difference is attractive's best friend, which means something that is different usually, if not always, lead to become something that is attractive, but it is also important for you to know that sometimes, difference could also lead to being left behind... :D
Well, this is where the fun begin... :D
I will give an example, have you ever met a person in whom you feel odd to be near them? You feel uncomfortable just like some kind of awkwardness aura radiate from their body? And you just can't stand to talk to them even only for a couple of minutes? On the other hand, have you ever met someone in whom you feel warm and cozy even after just a little talk? You feel that you will be able to be with them for the rest of your life?
That, my dear friends, is what I meant by difference. Now, you must notice that those two peoples in the example was somewhat different from each other, yet you receive two kind of different feedback from them as a totally different feeling you got when you interact with those two.
So, here comes the question, what makes you feel uncomfortable with the first person, yet so joyful with the second person? To answer this question, first we must have a good understanding in what so called "calibration".
So, what is calibration?
Calibration, in a simple word means to check, or adjust, which in my own words means to make anything in tune. Let's imagine, well, a guitar. when the sound that comes out from the guitar is not good, or in the term of music, false harmonics, simply means that the guitar was not calibrated yet.
Okay, let's break it down one by one, most peoples are just like the person from the first example, they don't understand the importance of calibration or simply don't know what calibration is.
Here is a little example of calibration; when you want to perform a joke, first of all we have to calibrate your joke's quality. So, in order to do the calibration, you should imagine 2 poles in a, lets say, joke's scale, 1 pole called not funny, the other called too funny.
When the joke quality falls in the region near to not funny pole on the joke's scale, then if you perform that joke, people who hear it will experience some kind of awkward situation because the joke was not funny yet they may have to laugh just to respect you, and maybe you'll be labelled as a boring people. While on the other hand, if the joke was too funny they will think that you are just a clown and no need to be taking seriously.
But, when you put your joke's quality, in the middle of the scale, with a little smart twist, people who hear your joke will laugh honestly and thought you were a funny and easy going person, yet still respected because of your quality, but for sure, they will love you.
There are still so many things that need to be calibrated first before performed, like confidence, voice tone and body language, and so on, that will be too much if I put all of them here, maybe in the next post when i am in the mood of writing... ;).
Well, to sum it all up, to perform an act of "be different without being different", here are what you need:
1. calibration
2. confidence
3. communication skill
4. leadership skill
Good luck and good day for all of you guys, see you on the next post! :)
Always calibrate, always be loved!
Aryahamasaki
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